May 2023

Why Surrounding Yourself with the Wrong People Can Ruin Your Life: The Truth about the 'Average of 5' Rule

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"You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with."

It's a statement that has been repeated countless times by self-help gurus, motivational speakers, and successful entrepreneurs. The idea is that the people you surround yourself with have a significant impact on your own success and personal growth. And while this may sound like an oversimplification, the truth is that the people we spend time with can shape our lives in more ways than we realize.

To understand this concept better, let's compare it to the felony murder rule. The felony murder rule states that if you are involved in a felony that results in someone's death, even if you did not directly cause it, you can be charged with murder. In other words, you are held responsible for the actions of those you associate with.

While the consequences of your associations may not be as extreme as in the felony murder rule, the concept still applies. The people you surround yourself with can have a significant impact on your life, whether it's positive or negative. For athletes and individuals seeking to improve their status, network, and business, this can be especially important.

Consider the example of an athlete who needs better people in their life. Let's say this athlete has friends who are constantly partying and encouraging reckless behavior like Ja Morant. If the athlete continues to surround themselves with these individuals, their own behavior may suffer, leading to poor performance and potential legal issues. Alternatively, if the athlete surrounds themselves with individuals who prioritize training, nutrition, and discipline, they are more likely to see improvements in their athletic performance.

Furthermore, consider the impact of the people in your life when it comes to financial decisions. Friends who don't know anything about saving, investing, or building may suggest spending money on material things. But if you were around someone who has experience in this area, they would likely forbid you from spending and would likely suggest saving, investing, and growing this money not spending on assets that depreciate.

Having a lawyer in your circle would also be beneficial as they would forbid you from signing predatory agreements and committing actions that could be detrimental to your status or land you in jail. This is in contrast to friends that may condone certain behaviors since it is a flex on social media or recklessly undervalue the consequences of certain actions.

As a lawyer, my most requested and favorite service is looking over contracts and advising on consequences before they happen, my least favorite is you're caught on camera holding a gun and trying to figure out how I can help you.

So remember, the people you spend time with have a significant impact on your life, whether you realize it or not. To achieve success and personal growth, it's important to surround yourself with individuals who share your values, prioritize self-improvement, and push you to be your best self.

Remember that just as in the felony murder rule, you are responsible for the actions of those you associate with and you are the company you keep. So choose your associations wisely and surround yourself with people who will help you achieve your goals. And if you're wondering on how to improve your inner circle, try improving your surroundings.

Places like gyms and coffee shops are good places to start, but start planting the seeds and seeking out success and you'll attract certain types of people with your energy, and even more importantly reject those who aren't on the same wavelength.

Issa Hall, Esq

Issa has founded multiple ventures, is an author, and founding partner of Hall & Dixon law firm, with over a decade of experience in tech and law.

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